By Analise Pendergast
In the good old days of parties, bars, and even blind dates,
you had the chance to check out the chemistry between you and
that prospective hottie in the flesh. But times have changed
and so have you - and with the advent of Internet dating, the
old rules are all turned around. So what's the skinny on online
personals? Can soul mates really find each other on the vast
plains of World Wide Web?
Let's go to the source and find out.
Peter: As a forty-something divorced guy with two kids and a
busy career, the idea of going out to bars to meet women was
the furthest thing from my mind. While I dearly wished I had
someone special in my life, I had no idea how to make it happen.
When a buddy from work mentioned he'd posted his profile on an
online personals site and was getting responses, I thought, "that's
fine for him, but I'm just not the personal ad type." But the
more I thought about it, the more sense it made. I mean, how
else was I realistically going to meet anyone? So I went ahead
and posted a profile. After a couple of coffee-dates that didn't
really click, I've met a woman I think is really pretty special.
I've invited Jill to go to dinner this Saturday, and I'm beginning
to believe that online personals can really be right for someone
in my situation.
Ron: I had transferred to a new city for my job. But as a gay
man, I was unsure of the territory - how safe was it to be out?
Where could I meet guys to hang out with, and date? For me, online
personals were the perfect solution. Within a few days of posting
my profile, I was having several online conversations with other
gay men in the area. They not only turned me on to some great
gay hangouts in town, I also met Carlos online - and we've been
dating for four months. Online personals were the key to my getting
settled in a new place, and meeting a great guy who I'm really
Helen: A die-hard workaholic, I thought I didn't have the time
or the charm to be in a relationship. But I was also lonely.
On my 35th birthday, I vowed to turn over a new leaf, and bring
some fun and romance into my life. Just posting my profile was
quite an experience! Coming up with a photo I could live with,
being forced to sit down and write about myself - it really made
me think about who I am and what I have to offer. And once I
started getting responses, it made me feel interesting and desirable.
The funny thing is - I didn't actually end up seriously dating
anyone I met online, but with my confidence running high, I began
attracting a different kind of attention out in the real world.
I ended up meeting a terrific guy at a regional conference, and
we've gotten really serious about each other. Even though we
didn't actually meet online, I'm convinced my attempts at online
dating ultimately led me to find John.